“My First Impressions experience was life-changing. No one ever told me that I came across as aloof!  I learned some specific things to do that changed how others see me, and now I’m a lot more socially confident - and successful.”
—Jeff Dillard

Social and Dating Skills

Do you know what people think about you when they meet you for the first time? Have you ever met someone with whom you felt you shared chemistry, but found out later that they didn’t feel the same?  If you understand the specific messages you are unconsciously sending, you have the power to enhance the impression you make, and connect to people more readily when it counts the most.

Social Skills Coaching will help you:

• See yourself through the eyes of others
• Gain self awareness and confidence
• Develop the verbal and non-verbal skills to make a positive impression

Here's how it works:

• Your coaching begins with a simulated social meeting or date with a First Impressions Coach.

• In a follow-up discussion, your coach will give you valuable, detailed feedback on the impression you made, including specifics about what you said or did that communicated that impression. You will learn where your unique charms and strengths lie, as well as anything you do that may send unintended messages.

• Your coach will provide suggestions on ways to better communicate your appeal, and specific actions you can take. You get a take-home report that outlines your first impression strengths and things you may consider tweaking.

• We also offer on-going consultations where your coach will support and challenge you as you experiment with your First Impression and interpersonal style - and make lasting changes.

Frequently Asked Questions

Who is this service for?
It’s for anyone who would like insight into his or her own personal style. Some of our clients are interested in how others see them in general social situations, such as meeting new people or clients, and some are interested in how they are perceived on a first date.

What is the foundation of your methods?
Our method is modeled after one we have used to coach business executives on their interpersonal skills and leadership styles. We bring this method from the professional to the personal world to help you understand how you are perceived when meeting someone new.

What is the feedback like?
It’s like a mirror. We tell you "This is how you come across; is this consistent with what you would like to project?" - rather than giving you a list of do's and don'ts. We appreciate that everyone has a unique style, and we don't want to change who you are. What we do is help you to project your true self more clearly and positively.

How can I 'be myself' in a simulation?
Our clients tell us that the meeting feels very much like a real first social encounter—after a few minutes they forget about the context. And remember, you are being evaluated during any first date or social meeting, whether you get feedback or not.

How can you simulate "chemistry?"
We can't, of course. But we do help you understand how you are perceived so that when you feel interest or attraction to someone, you have the tools, confidence, and power to present yourself in a positive way.

What are the logistics?
You will meet your coach in a café for a one-hour social meeting or date—you’ll identify him or her as the single person with the New York Times. We encourage you to act naturally and have fun. At the end of the hour, there will be a short break. You will pick up the tab for the coffee. Immediately following, you rejoin your coach for a 90-minute feedback session.

How do I get started?
To schedule a session, call us at (212) 219-0923 or send us a message in the contact page. We can schedule your meeting at a time and place that is convenient for you.

Payment:
You have the option of paying on-line or by check to us at 22 Prince Street, #318, New York, NY 10012. You may postpone up to two days before the session and be entitled to reschedule.