Throughout our book we include tables that you can use to assess your unique first impressions style by noting whether you do each behavior usually, sometimes, or rarely. If you are reading our book, but don't like writing in it, you can print all the tables from for your private use. If you haven't read the book, you can use the tables to identify your first impressions strengths, and things you could do even better.

Evaluate your "First Impressions" style

Take your First Impressions knowledge on a “test drive”: view and download this table and assess what you do when you meet someone new. At the end of the table, we'll tell you whether those behaviors are generally seen in a positive or negative way by most people.

The following are tables from each of the First Impression “Fundamentals.” The first table outlines positive behaviors, and the second outlines some common miscommunications.

The Seven First Impressions Fundamentals

1. Accessibility
Positive Accessibility Behaviors (pg. 56)
Common Misconceptions (pg. 57)

2. Showing Interest
Positive Interest Behaviors (pg. 81)
Common Miscommunications (pg. 82)

3. The Subject Matter of First Communications
Positive Topic Behaviors (pg. 108)
Common Miscommunications (pg. 109)

4. Self Disclosure
Positive Self-Disclosure Behaviors (pg. 128)
Common Miscommunications (pg. 129)

5. Conversational Dynamics
Positive Conversational Dynamics Behaviors (pg. 145)
Common Miscommunications (pg. 146)

6. Perspective
Positive Perspective Behaviors (pg. 164)
Common Miscommunications (pg. 165)

7. The Subtleties of Sex Appeal
Positive Sex Appeal Behaviors (pg. 182)
Common Miscommunications (pg. 183)